So!! You’ve got a friend to go out clubbing with, and you’re desperate for a boy/girlfriend, this is a rare chance to get out and meet someone. After a couple of vodkas, and as you wait for the taxi to arrive, you get your tarot cards out and ask…….
“Will I meet the love of my life tonight?”…………..
The answer is a big fat NO!
What does this do? Does it shake your confidence? Does it take the fun out of all the effort of dressing up and going out ? Would it stop you from going out at all? I could understand one getting a huge feeling of disappointment, and, at the very least, going out with a less positive attitude than previously. After all, this is the aim of going out, isn’t it? This is an example of how tarot can be a formidable force – it certainly can have an affect on us.
And this is where some anti-tarot types might wisely shake their heads and say “See! This is how tarot can affect your life, your choices, your attitude. It is not a good thing!” – especially if you become pretty miserable about it.
Well here’s the rub. It is not about what the tarot cards tell you, it is a matter of mental attitude in the first place. Should we be pinning our hopes on meeting someone, on one night, in a club? Should we be that desperate to get a boyfriend/girlfriend in the first place? Shouldn’t we say “Sod it! I am going to go and have a great time!” anyway?
The tarot cards will put you on the spot, they can be the harbinger of bad news, but they are just a conduit. When we get something in our head that we want, our ego is like a tantruming two year old, paddying till it gets what it wants. And when the answer is still NO, it goes into massive sulk mode. It is our ego which is counter-productive, it is the ego that goes into overdrive.
So, how should tarot cards be used ?
We should be asking the tarot cards to help us to get to a place where we become more confident in ourselves, and wiser about the world around us, by asking the right questions. Questions like, “What do I need to work on to become more confident about myself?” On the other hand, we can ask the tarot any question we like, but we need to be ready to accept the answer without getting nazzy knickers about it. For this, we need a level of maturity. We need to take our foot off the pedal of desperation, and grow up.
The tarot makes us think more deeply about ourselves, the way we do things and why, especially if the answer is no. In my opinion, this is a very productive process. The more we analyse situations the more we learn. We are exercising our brains and ability, and learning how to manage our motives, reactions and emotions.
So, when you do get those tarot cards out, ask them a question that you can work with, rather than for fortune telling……..unless you can take the tarot truth and get on with it anyway.